Monday, November 08, 2010

First Ever "Mommy Guilt Monday"

Before I had kids, no one told me about the tremendous amount of guilt that I would feel about what I was or wasn't doing right for my children.  Sometimes the guilt really gets to me, and I know that I am not alone in this.  Lately, the weight of the guilt has really been getting to me.  In an effort to purge my soul of some of this guilt, I am introducing, "Mommy Guilt Monday".  This may not be a weekly feature (even though there is plenty of material).  Feel free to play along.

Today's topic - Chase's sport development

Chase has wanted to play football for years.  The money and time commitment were more than we felt we could afford.  We did let him play flag football last year, but never tackle football.  This year he was able to play on the school team.  He is loving it, but he is at a disadvantage since he has never played before.  The mommy guilt hits.  I feel guilty for not providing him with the opportunities to play football in the past so that he would have had the experience that he needed in order to play better this year.  Guilt, guilt, guilt.

This week, Chase will be trying out for the basketball team.  Ask me if he has played basketball before.  

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erinlo said...

I can SO SO relate to this, Jenna!! I have a huge list of things that I could feel guilty about, too. It seems like Chase is a great kid. I am sure that he thinks you're an awesome mama!!

Kelli C. Houston, TX said...

Funny that you should post this at this very time. I have had this conversation with numerous friends lately. I have children that are a little older and I find it's a lot like the frog in the kettle process. It starts out as one sport/activity that your child wants to do. Nothing wrong with that but before you know it you are sucked into all the things the culture says you "have to do" to be a good mom to your children or provide for your children. I have been reminded of a lot lately. God only ask me to meet my children's emotional, physical and spiritual needs. All the rest is extra. As a matter of fact..i find that when I try to keep up with what our culture say I have to in the way of activities, I am so busy running them around that I'm less affective at providing the things they really need. It has been freeing and has helped me purge some of the things I have said yes to that were not necessary and to hopefully teach my kids early on what is really important. I so relate to what you have written. It is hard in our current culture to balance what is really best verses good.

Thanks for the reminder.

carrie p said...

My son, also a Chase, never played until this year (7th Grade) either. He's a year younger and a head shorter than nearly everyone on his team. He's not all that good, yet, but he has the drive and I expect he'll stick with it. I spent this first seson watching giants knock him down. One boy even picked him up and tossed him a few yards! But, I also saw some great strides being made. I saw him make great blocks and get an assist on a tackle. And through this experience (that has sometimes been really difficult for a Mommy to watch), I have learned so much about my son. God opened my eyes to the young man Chase has become. I found that the things my husband, family and I have been teaching Chase are being practiced right before my eyes! Chase has learned to take some of life's hits without any involvement from me aside from prayers, support and humor. And he is taking them in the spirit of kindness, and goodwill. He often talks to the big guys who block him between plays. Then he tells me about them. His catch-phrase for the season was, "He's a real nice guy, Mom. He's just another one who prefers to see me on the ground in the fetal position during the action!" Watch for the things God is telling you about your child. You will be amazed at what you see!